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Reading Notes - The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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Rediscover Yourself

Learn to shift your thinking and break the mold of fixed thinking patterns.

Centered on principles

New levels of thinking

The process of changing habits is very uncomfortable, after all, what we are used to gives us a sense of security.

Three Stages of Growth

Dependency period

With "you" as the core: You take care of me, you are responsible for my gains and losses

Independence period

With "I" as the core: I can do it, I can take responsibility; I can rely on myself, I have the right to choose

Period of Interdependence

"We" at the core: We can do it, we can cooperate; We can integrate each other's wisdom and abilities, and create a better future together.

Three types of assets: Balancing output and capacity (The Goose That Laid the Golden Eggs)

Financial assets

Tangible assets

Human Assets

The Three Stages of Growth and Seven Habits

The essence of interpersonal relationships

Seven Main Investment Methods

Understand others

Pay attention to details.

Keep one's promise

Clarify expectations

Integrity and honesty

Be brave to apologize

Unconditional love

The reverse side of a problem is an opportunity.

Be good at facing problems, view problems as opportunities to improve productivity, and never avoid them.

Investment in Emotional Bank Account

The savings in the emotional account are the indispensable trust in interpersonal relationships, which is the sense of security when people get along with each other.

Proactive - Principle of Personal Vision

Three-step proactive approach

Language

Positive language, gentle, firm, understanding, empathy

attitude

Be proactive, think of ways to solve problems, instead of shirking responsibility, resisting, or being stubborn.

behavior

Take action immediately, no procrastination.

Don't blame others for your actions.

Turn passive into active: reduce negative language to ensure a positive attitude

Listen to your own language

Eliminate negative factors

Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern: Start with What You Can Control

First, make a promise and keep it.

Second, set goals and put them into practice.

About Control

Directly controllable issues: Cultivating the right habits (the first three habits)

Indirectly controllable issues: empathy, setting an example (the last three habits)

Uncontrollable issues: remain calm and accept them peacefully.

Begin with the End in Mind - The Principle of Self-Leadership

Use life goals as the standard for everything: the evaluation you hope to receive at the end of your life is the true success you desire in your heart

Know the direction before doing anything

Anything requires two creations.

Conceiving in the mind: the first intellectual creation

Leader: Do the right thing.

Putting it into practice: the second physical creation

Management: Doing the right thing

Make the right principles the center of your life.

Taking a comprehensive view: self, work, family...

Make full use of your entire brain and develop your right brain.

Broaden your mind

Imagine and think deeply, imagine every detail and put your emotions into it.

Mental rehearsal and affirmation

Confirmation should include five elements: individual, positive, decisive, visible, emotional.

Only by participating can we identify with (the formulation of the mission statement)

First Things First - The Principle of Self-Management

Independent will: A prerequisite for effective management

Clarify goals and missions, and say no to other irrelevant things.

Four types of things: the second type of affairs is the core of effective self-management.

Six Standards of Management Methods

Harmony and unity

Individual's ideals and missions, roles and goals, desires and self-control, work priorities and plans

Balance function

Health, family, personal development, etc.

Centered

Focus on important but not urgent tasks, determine the priority.

People-oriented

The focus of personal management lies in people.

Be flexible

Don't be rigid and inflexible.

portable

The management tool is portable and can be referred to for corrections.

Four Steps of Personal Management

Confirm the role

Determine your key role

Select the target

Confirm the one or two things you most want to do under your assigned role (must include second-tier affairs)

Arrange the schedule

Schedule specific real-time (weekly plan)

Daily adjustment

Adjust according to the actual situation

The secret of high performance: delegation

Instruction-based authorization

Provide detailed guidance for every step of the work process.

Responsibility-based delegation

Anticipated outcomes

Focus on the outcome, clarify the understanding of both parties, and finally achieve the desired result.

Guidelines

Confirm the applicable assessment criteria.

Available resources

Human resources, finance, technology or organization

responsibility attribution

Performance Criteria (Specific Time and Performance Report)

Reward and punish clearly

Financial rewards, spiritual rewards, job adjustments, etc.

Win-Win Thinking - The Principle of Interpersonal Leadership

Six Modes of Interpersonal Communication

Mutual benefit (win-win)

Harm others to benefit oneself (win/lose)

Selflessness (win/lose)

Both sides suffer losses (lose/lose)

Win by being self-sufficient.

No transaction

The Five Essentials of Win-Win Thinking

Win-win ethics

Integrity

Mature

Be gentle and strong at the same time, express yourself while considering others, dare to act

Contentment

Believe in abundant resources, everyone has a share

Win-win relationship

Make sincere emotional investments; focus on the circle of influence.

Win-win agreement

Expected result

Determine goals and deadlines

Guidelines

Determine the principles, guidelines, and limits of the objectives.

Available resources

Human resources, financial resources, technical resources, or organizational resources

Task Assessment

The standards and time for performance evaluation (focusing on results)

Reward and punishment system

Clarify the significance of assessment and rewards

Win-win system

The existence of problems all源于the system.

Win-win process

Look at the problem from the other person's perspective.

Identify the main issues and concerns (rather than positions)

Reach a result that everyone can accept

Various possible ways to achieve this result

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood - The Principle of Empathetic Communication

Mental atmosphere

In addition to material needs, humans' greatest survival needs come from psychology.

Empathic Listening

Fully and deeply understand each other emotionally and rationally, observe with your eyes, and feel with your heart.

Four Autobiographical Responses

Value judgment

There are only two options for dealing with other people's opinions: accept or reject them.

get to the bottom of something

Investigate other people's privacy according to your own values.

Always ready to teach others

Offer advice based on personal experience

Self-righteous

Judge others' actions and motives based on their own actions and motives.

Effective Communication

Repeat the statement.

Add explanation (left brain)

渗入个人的感觉（右脑）

Both explanatory and emotional (left and right brain)

Play the role of a confidant at the right time and use expression techniques

Character first (personal credibility; one's emotional account); emotion second (empathy); reason third (expressing oneself reasonably; logical ability)

Synergy-The Principle of Creative Collaboration

Essence

Judge and respect differences, learn from each other's strengths and弥补 each other's weaknesses;发挥整体大于部分之和

The Three Levels of Communication

keep an eye on each other

Mutual respect

Synergistic effect

Seeking a Third Way

Break out of the either-or mentality and turn resistance into motivation.

Continuous Updating - The Principle of Balanced Self-Improvement

Four Dimensions of Self-Improvement and Perfection

Physical level